Self Care for Mums: More Than Bubble Baths
When we think of self care, images of scented candles, face masks and bubble baths, often come to mind. While there’s nothing wrong with a good soak in the tub, for many mums, true self care runs far deeper. It’s about mental health, emotional wellbeing, boundaries, and giving yourself permission to rest; even when the to do list says otherwise. In a world where motherhood is often synonymous with self sacrifice, honouring mothers must start with supporting their need to care for themselves.
- Redefining What Self Care Means
Self care doesn’t have to be flashy or Instagram worthy. It can be as simple as taking ten quiet minutes with a cup of tea, booking a GP appointment you’ve been putting off, or saying “no” to yet another playdate. It’s about asking yourself: What do I need right now? and listening to the answer without guilt.
- Prioritising Mental Health
Many women overlook their mental health, yet disregarding stress, worry or weariness can have long term effects, not just for themselves but for the entire family. Talking to a therapist, joining a support group, or even journaling your thoughts are all helpful forms of self care. There’s strength in seeking help and space for yourself.
- Building Boundaries (and Keeping Them)
Being a mum doesn’t mean being available 24/7. Learning to set boundaries with your partner, extended family, workplace, or even your kids is vital. Whether it’s carving out solo time on the weekend or enforcing a no phones at dinner rule, boundaries protect your energy and teach others to respect it.
- Embracing Imperfection
Motherhood is messy, loud, and rarely looks like the filtered photos online. Self care means ditching the pressure to “do it all” and embracing imperfection. The laundry can wait. Dinner doesn’t need to be homemade every night. Letting rid of false expectations does not imply giving up; rather, it means presenting as your actual self.
- Connecting With Other Mums
Social connection is a type of self care, particularly when it occurs without judgment or competitiveness. Meeting with other mothers even for a walk or a conversation, may be calming and encouraging. It reminds you that you are not alone, and that shared experiences may be great resources for resilience.
- Doing Something Just for You
When was the last time you did anything just because you loved it? Finding joy outside of parenting, whether through reading, drawing, jogging, or dancing in the kitchen, helps to keep a sense of self. It’s a quiet but important approach to remember mothers as people, not just caregivers.
Wrapping Up
Real self care for mums is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. It’s about tending to your own needs with as much care as you give to others. Beyond the bath bombs and pamper sessions, it’s showing up for yourself in small, consistent ways that say: I matter too. And in doing so, we’re not just caring for mums, we’re honouring mothers for all that they are, and all that they carry, every single day.
